Since making the discovery that I am an Island Girl, I have participated in Relationship Development Quick Start Program and started this book, finished this one and started this one.

All of this put me down a path of better understanding of Masculine and Feminine energy and the role they play in our physical health and wellbeing.  (Cause…Just saying…I don’t feel in my core that we can have strong romantic relationships if we are not flourishing as individuals).

One important aha moment:  Alcohol dulls my Feminine “Spirit”.  Now that I am in search of my true self, I don’t want to shove her back in the dark shadow by drowning her with toxins.  As I reflect, I believe I allowed society to intimidate me to squelch my own passion development, because good girls don’t think or do “that”…

Alcohol eliminated inhibitions and gave an excuse to exercise those desires…but sadly took away the sensation and attentiveness to the moment.  I robbed myself.

No more.

Our Oracle has a job: Tend or light and fire.

Your Oracle steers by the light of the moon. Your Oracle has night vision and can see in the dark. Your Oracle always has your back. Your Oracle is on “team you.” Your Oracle’s guidance will at times be great news, sweet as honey. At other times, it will burn away all that no longer serves you, and all that is no longer you. Tirelessly, she will make sure you are walking your Feminine Genius path, no matter what you need to learn or how you need to grow as you go.

Using an exercise from Feminine Genius, (Oracle Practice #3: Calling Your Oracle), a quiet mind goes within and “attempts” to connect with the inner self.  I was encouraged to find meanings in research if a name floated into my consciousness.  Like a bling…it flashed… I’ve don’t know anyone by this name.  I have never considered it for a pet or child, so I took it to mean that this was my new friend.

Meet my Oracle… Violet.


{The following may….or may not be of interest ….to anyone but merry….although if you read further you will discover that amethyst is otherwise known as the sobriety stone}

As a color…


Violet is a spectral color, near Indigo (have always loved the concept of Indigo Children). It is at the end of the visible spectrum between blue and invisible ultraviolet.  As a spectral color, it has its own wavelength  (380-450 nanometers).  It is a dominant wavelength and violet objects actually reflect violet light.

Spiritual calming of emotions, it represents future, imagination, and dreams.  It can inspire and enhance psychic abilities and spiritual enlightenment while keeping us GROUNDED.

Color of reconciliation.

Violet is one of the first/oldest colors used in cave drawings.

As a flower…


It has a long bloom from spring to frost and can bloom through winter in warmer climates. Good Luck Symbol for Women.

Love. Modesty. Virtue. Affection. Faithfulness.

Luxury. Royalty. Extravagance. Individuality.

{I’m having fun at this point in my research, seeing a connection to the relationship developments I want to build with others ….and the individual growth I want for myself}

As a crystal…


  • Stimulates and soothes the mind and emotions
  • Fire, Passion, Creativity, and Spirituality
  • Logic, temperance, and sobriety…prevent drunkenness and overindulgence.
  • Control evil thoughts
  • Increase intelligence
  • Protection of travelers and soldiers
  • Assistance to hunters
  • Couple’s stone
  • Healer
  • Natural Tranquilizer
  • Boosts production of hormones
  • Stimulates sympathetic nervous system and endocrine glands
  • Oxygenates blood
  • Treats digestive tract, heart, stomach, skin
  • Strengthens immune system

Amethyst honors Artemis, Greek Goddess of the hunt and childbirth-love of mountains and forests, and, Diana, Roman Goddess of the Moon.

Violet is valued in Chinese culture as the harmony of the universe.  It is a combination of blue and red… a balance of yin and yang.  (Night/Day, Hot/Cold, RightBrain/LeftBrain)

In Hindu and Buddhaism violet is the CROWN CHAKRA.  As the petals unfold of the crown chakra, one finds wisdom. One assimilates knowledge and integrates it.  We know.  We understand.  We manifest destiny.

Cleansing and purifying, the color of magic, ritual purifying, connecting,  mystery, and mysticism. Rebirth and illumination.

Van Gogh, an avid student of color theory, used violet/purple often in his Iris and Starry Night paintings.

Purple has become a color of choice by politicians who want to portray a combination of the two parties.  Assertive and Confident (red) +  Peace and Cooperation (blue).

Physical level Gifts of Radiant Health

  • Healthy Nervous System
  • Sharp Mind
  • Excellent Cognitive Skills
  • Healthy reflexes
  • Connected Mind Body Spirit

Mental level Gifts

  • Imagination
  • Open Minded
  • Curious
  • Deep Thinker
  • Love of Learning, Studying, Reading
  • Find Connections and Patterns

Mental level Challenges

  • Materialistic
  • Greedy
  • Dominating
  • Rigid Mindset
  • Over-Intellectualizing

Emotional Level Gifts

  • Intuitive
  • Sensitive
  • Wisdom/Mastery
  • Aware
  • Emotionally Balanced
  • Peaceful Calm
  • Joyful
  • Connected to Heaven

Emotional Level Challenges

  • Overwhelm
  • Confusion Frustration
  • Apathy
  • Isolation
  • Depression
  • Lack of inspiration
  • Feeling Ungrounded

The Key to Chakra Healing is the VIOLET FLAME.  It burns with all the colors of violet from deep magenta to pale lilac through violet and purple with flickers of silver, gold, deep ruby and opalescent light.


{and coming full circle to my discovery of male/female}… 

The Violet Flame of 3 merges the Divine Masculine and the Divine Feminine (Blue, Pink, Gold)

The Divine Feminine (Right Brain and heart) of crystalline pink brings love, nurture, compassion, adoration, and reverence for all life.

The Divine Masculine (Left Brain, throat, and heart) is a sapphire blue bringing desire, inner resolve, power, leadership over ourselves.

When these merge and balance our “Higher Centers” a gold ray of energy awakens.

Gold Flame embodies wisdom, discrimination, illumination.  Love balances power and wisdom blends with love.  The violet flame of forgiveness and transmutation activates within us.


I’m on a journey to rediscover and embrace my whole being.  Remaining sober will allow for deeper progression while using numbing substances of any type would clearly halt and probably send my spirit running to hide again.

I’m confident that it won’t take much coaxing to allow myself to shine brightly.  I’m committed to being the most courageous version of myself to allow all of it to unfold and emerge.

One thought on “Violet

  1. I think you are a much deeper thinker than I. Lol. That was intense. Interesting too. Once I get through 30 days I’m going to tackle Wired For Love. Maybe some of the above sometime too. Finally Day 12 here today! Whew whoo!

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